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The unwarranted or irrational fear of the opinions of others.
Although Allodoxaphobia is generally accepted as a medical or psychological condition (not unakin to a psychosis or overruling condition requiring expert attention) it could easily be argued to be a basic function of the human condition.
If I call the atheist a Theophobe how does he feel? Does he thank me? Of course not, he feels perhaps angry at my opinion or maybe he looks down at me for not understanding but most likely he feels defensive. We feel defensive when we feel the need to defend - it can be seen as a fear reaction.
How do these comments make you feel?
It's be pretty hard to take if that was all said to you in a day. One or two of the comments might fail to affect you at all, but what if someone important to you started to say them? Out of this core fear then comes: peer-pressure, fashion, demands, popularity contests and a thousand every-day games of lets pretend that tries to avoid 50% of the possible opinions of others.
At the end of the day words and opinions can not damage or kill you but the experienced rejection, (that failing in the eye's of another brings), can. It is a form of Social Phobia that causes us to stay home on a "bad hair day" and refuse to be seen at a club without "the right clothes". At some level we know that clothes are required only to keep us warm and dry but still we still are extremely selective and our criteria are not those of practicality but of the opinions of others.
What else does this lead to?
What is at stake is our faith in ourselves. Our belief in our own abilities, charm and general worthiness as a human often take their cues from others opinions. We feel reassured when people agree with us or like us. It is how a person will cope when there is non to agree no-one who's opinions are "nice" that is the mark of potential greatness. Such a person is free to act according to his own standards to strive for his own goals and to do so with whatever methods seem right to him. This person - a man in this illustration - this man may become a great pioneer or a sociopathic and criminal menace but he will be a great.
Does that mean , then, that we are tied to mediocrity through enslavement to vague elemental forces of this world? Controlled by fear and yet calling ourselves free? Are we dictated to by the mores and wants of those around us? Acting as a giant herd of sheep with no true purpose or direction? This is the natural conclusion; the final destination of this way of life. What other conclusion can we draw? We could come up with a more comforting ending but who would that help?
So what now? Do we accept that this is "the glue that binds" or do we break out of our constraints? If you re-act to these opinions are you still acting as the sheep or do some opinions set you free? Is it true that truth sets you free? If it is and if this is some truth do you have the courage to be free? After all the sheep in the herd feel safe and are unlikely to be eaten by wolves. Perhaps it is better to be a slave to the vagueties of life, to take comfort in the safety and live a good if unremarkable life and then die (as we all shall).
Now it is down to you. I have no answers - just questions.
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