Beautiful

Well here I am beautifu;l readers. Back from my wedding and dealing with everything that has piled up. I'll post some photo's from the wedding when I get a chance to. In the mean time here is an article that I found that seemed worthy of a beautiful reprint:

How to Develop the Awesome Power of Getting Other People to Cooperate With You
By Gary Simpson

Have you ever wondered what it would be like if you never had to "lock horns" with other people? Well, there are some skills that you can learn.

Try this. Ask somebody to raise both arms so that they can touch the palms of their hands against yours. Don't worry about explaining anything to them. Tell them it is an experiment if you like.

Now you are facing the other person, you both have your arms raised and are "palm to palm." Start pushing. What happens? What does the other person do? Do it. The outcome is 100% predictable.

So, why, when you are seeking co-operation with another person should you be confronting to them? It doesn't make sense when you see it in this light, does it? What is your 100% predictable response when somebody starts forcing his or her wishes onto you?

Let's use an example. Do you say to your partner: "I want a cup of tea!"? Or, would it be better to say something like: "Darling, I'm really busy at the moment. I'd really like a cup of tea if you have the time to make it."

What does the second approach convey to your partner?

1 - You are really busy right now,

2 - You would really appreciate your partner making that cup of tea for you,

3 - You have shown concern for your partner's time.

Conversely, what does the first approach convey?

1 - You are rude

2 - You are arrogant

3 - You are lazy

It is far easier to attract bees to pollen than it is to gasoline.

Look at your language. When you desire somebody to do something for you do you sound like a military commander? What sort of body language do you use?

The easiest way to get co-operation from other people is to place yourself in their position. How would you like to be approached? How do you react to "orders?"

People are reluctant to respond favorably to orders, unless, of course, they are in the armed forces. But that is a different matter.

Governments, banks, insurance companies, lawyers, courts, politicians and employers all issue orders. How do most people react? They become defensive, unco-operative, resentful and at times, hostile.

Can you now see the awesome power of getting other people to co-operate with you with a willing heart? Might you now make a concentrated effort to couch your requests in terms that they find palatable?

Yes, this is an art. But like all arts, the more you practice it the more skillful you will become. Try it. You will be amazed at how co-operative people will become.

[If you like this article and would like to use it on your own website or ezine you may do so ONLY if the article is not changed in any way and the final paragraph: "About the author", with all links intact, is included.]

About the author:
Gary Simpson is the author of eight books covering a diverse range of subjects such as self esteem, affirmations, self defense, finance and much more. His articles appear all over the web. Gary's email address is budo@iinet.net.au. Click here to go to his Motivation & Self Esteem for Success website.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/

 
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  Handy Hint: Flagging the unflagable.

By now the blog-o-sphear is noticing blogger has a new flag system to allow people to mark blog-spot blogs as bad in some way spam, junk, hate or just plain offensive.

However, the sites I'd most want to flag are the one's that annoy by covering or hiding the navigational bar. Now here is a little tip that many of you will enjoy using to deal with this little irritation.

Add a new bookmark/favourate so in the links section (so that it appears on your tool bar). Make the target this:

javascript:toggleFlag();

and Bob's your uncle (as they say) - you can now flag blogs without being able to see the button. Of course, if there is no bar at all then this will not work... but it's a good start.

Also Published Here 
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  BOD: The department

the department: "17 syllables and 187,500 pixels a day - that's the goal. Not that size matters."

This is a realy good photo blog from some one tghat really knows how to use a camera.

 
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  The beautiful talker is doing the big M-thing
Greatings beutiful readers. The Beautiful Talker will be marrying Mrs Beautiful Talker (which makes it more offical like) next week and I need to find a car... so I am bowing out and no blog posts are likely to happen for the next 9 to 15 days.

I will of course link you to any blogs that are great if I get a chance.

-Beautiful Talker. 
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  Lord Matt Rides Again
Hey, readers - do you remember that post (yes the one under this one) where I said "dude, I need my own all about me space..." or something like that..? well I did say that sort thing... So yes: Lord Matt :I did it and stuff.

I'll be getting back to the BOD shortly.... honest. 
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I'm thinking that maybe it is time to combine all the threads of my life and create a blog about... me. Is that a strange idea or just a bad idea?

 
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  BOD: Castle of Nannbugg

Here is you BOD goodness for today. A blog by an interesting writer that shares the Desz style view of the world that being the same as everyone else is DULL DULL DULL. The only answer to this dullness is to be yourself and try not to too suffer from too much "complete predictablity".

Best of all this blogger is from the greatest bit of the universe - The Earth! (and my corner of said planet - the UK!)

Castle of Nannbugg: "There was a stretch of grassy land from my patio to the edge of the property, where it dropped off with a view of the distant rolling hills. It really was quite picturesque... unless you were on my patio. It was then you realized that tenants and their dogs walked the beautiful stretch of grassy land frequently. There was a strict rule the apartments had and that was to scoop when walking your dog. It was obvious that several did not abide by that."

 
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  BOD: Promote Your Blog Correctly

(I cheated a little on this one)

This "first" installment of BOD is a little bit of a cheat as I was involved in making it. It is also a site to help you make a difference to yourself rather than anyone else.

Promote Your Blog Correctly: "However, if your foundations are bad your efforts will be useless. So we shall assume that you have good content and a reasonable flow of posts for your blog..."

...

"...So many blogs out there claim to be about how to promote your blog. But when you get down to it they seem to be more interested in selling you stuff. I'm sure you can find ways to say thankyou if you need to but other than that I do not sell."

That is not to say that visiting will not help others, just that it will help you.

As such this one is going to hit the reserve list and will not be the first BOD you see published.

 
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  BOD: Tokyo クリ

Tokyo ??: "Japanese mayonnaise (マヨネーズ)is dangerous for the unwary in Japan. It is surprisingly tasty in comparison to American mayonnaise. You may instantly become a 'マヨラ(mayola)' or mayonnaise lover. Entire Japanese families are 'マヨラ' and hence in danger of becoming overweight from eating too much mayonnaise."

A great read and quite interesting too.

Although that just could be because I have family in Japan now.

 
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  BOD: FREDDY FROM YORKSHIRE

Tha' Knows! It's Freddy from (ya-know-where) - a great read if I am any judge at all.

FREDDY FROM YORKSHIRE: "Married with two children. A boy age 8 and a girl age 6. I have 1 goldfish, a hamster and a mortgage. "

I found the site on Desz blog. That itself is a massive endorsment.

 
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  Bit-O-Difference

Greetings beautiful readers.

This post is to announce the introduction of a new beautiful project. The BOD Project: Bit-O-Difference.

This project will be running right here at this blog and will last for as long as it can.

The project is a simple one. Every day (or as there about) I will post a link to a blog or website I think deserves a little more attention.

These will be websites that are cool, rock, groove, or rule.

Or at least I think so.

You will know a site has been entered for this honour as the post title will start "BOD:"

The title of the project is such because I'd like to make a bit of difference to these sites.

My hope is that you will love these sites too. That you will think they are great and need good comments telling them so. However, you are free to think what you want (including the thought that this blogger has lost his mind.

However, it is no time for Dr Talker to go find the first great site in need of a well done.

One last note. Feel free to recommend other peoples sites but do not ask for your own site to be linked. I will also be going back from time to time to the site that have been awarded a little link under the BOD project and will be following links and profiles from comments I find there. I hope you will join me in making a Bit o' difference.

 
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  Top 10 dot-com flops - CNET.com
Top 10 dot-com flops - CNET.com: "The most astounding thing about the dot-com boom was the obscene amount of money that was spent. Zealous venture capitalists fell over themselves to invest millions in Internet start-ups; dot-coms blew millions on spectacular marketing campaigns; new college graduates became instant millionaires (albeit on paper) and rushed out to spend it; and companies with unproven business models executed massive IPOs with sky-high stock prices. Of course, we all know what eventually happened to this world. Few of these companies actually made enough money to recoup that cash, and when their investors fled to the hills, these start-ups died dramatic deaths. These are the celebrity victims of the new-economy bust." 
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  Inner Beauty Not Outer

The Beautiful Talker does not care about outer appearance of the blogger. I don't care if you are fat or thin, attractive or dog like. I do not care if you are blue or green, red or yellow, black or pink. I certainly don't care if you a male or a female.

Any blogger that feels sexism of any form is right will get no links from here.

Any blogger that seeks to promote one gender over another, one colour over another or one size over another will be struck off the link list forever.

The Beautiful talker feels that to distinguish bloggers for gender, shape, size, colour, hair, religion or for any other reason that is not the content they produce is totally immoral.

The Beautiful Talker does not like the fact that bloggers should be advantaged or disadvantage based just on gender. I don't see why being female should get you access to extra linkage and I don't see why being male should do likewise.

The links that you will get from this blogger will be based only on your content and NOT because I want to link to more/fewer females, males, pinks, otters or humans.

The Beautiful Talker now aims to ensure that blogs that use discrimination will not get a link from this blog.

 
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  DuDu's Dad Desz: Google Image Fun..

Well desz seems to have similar ideas on the fun games front. In this game you must use google.

DuDu's Dad Desz: Google Image Fun..: "Go to.. Google images Enter ALL of your initials and click Search. Click the first picture that comes up, then click 'See full-size image' Post your initials with the picture (or the url to the picture) and explain how it relates to you. Post these instructions on your website, blog, etc."

My initials are MDB which I happen to know is the file extension to MS-ACCESS files. I was not supprised by the resultant picture.

 
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I have decided to try my hand at starting a new meme. (a meme is a fun self replicating idea that seems to have a life of it's own).

The aim of this meme is to link to lots of other blogs but only blogs that you passed the meme on to and they completed it. and also to the site that sent you the meme, or you picked it up from.

Now the activity: Make your own Region Tree

A Region Tree is a graphical representation of the area you live in, for example all trees start with THE WORLD and then each branch takes your more specific until you have connected your town with it's place in the world. This meme was inspired by the data structure in Globally Local a top notch local search that I have been writing code for.

My Tree:

WORLD
   |
   +- Africa
   +- China
   +- USA
   +- etc
   +- EU
       +- UK
           +- South East England
                   |
                   +- Kent
                       |
                       +- Cantebury
                       +- Ashford
                       +- Tunbridge Wells
                       +- Isle of Thanet 
                             |
                             +- Villages
                             +- Towns
                                  |
                                  +- Ramsgate
                                  +- Broqadstairs
                                  +- Margate
                                        |
                                        +- Cliftonville
                                        +- Margate Town

 
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  Download Onfolio
Just found a yummy looking freebie: Download Onfolio - it's a feed reader that supports firefox and apparently is very nice. Free is a good price. 
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  Promote Your Blog...

Promote Your Blog Correctly: "Despite the fact we would all like to hand over £10 / $20 and have endless enthusiastic visitors beet a way to our blog it's never going to happen. So get used to it."

This blog is rather yummy and while the litriture skills are not quite as hot as say shakespear it's still a darn impressive read. It's early days yet but this Blog has a lot of new toys - check out the blogroll.

 
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